Manipulation, Manipulate, Manipulators
Do you dislike manipulative behavior as much as I do? Bitches and bullies, sociopaths and the sickly sweet talkers, the world is full of people & companies who will say and do anything to get what they want, and won’t hesitate to use you for personal gain.
WHAT IS MANIPULATION ?
MANIPULATION
noun
To control or play upon by unfair, or insidious means especially to one’s own advantage, so as to serve one’s purpose – Merriam-Webster
Why do people manipulate ?
For many manipulation may be an inadvertent strategy for dealing with a cutthroat world in which discussing feelings is often something we keep bottled inside is part of the normal range of behavioral tactics, and most people engage in manipulative strategies from time to time sometimes poeple dont even know they are doing it. those whose primary style of interaction is manipulation, however, tend to share some traits in common. These include:
Needing to have power and control over others
To raise their own self esteem
Fear of abandonment
Feelings of worthlessness, helplessness, or hopelessness
Putting themselves over others and humanity's needs
How you can be manipulated
1. Making you believe it was your idea
“There is only one way to get anybody to do anything. And that is by making the other person want to do it.” – Dale Carnegie
People do what they want to do, not what you want them to do.
But if you can convince someone that your idea is really their idea, they’re much more likely to go along with it, because they’ll still feel in control of the decision making process, as opposed to feeling manipulated. The way about making someone else believe it was their idea is you plant ideas and suggestions in their minds while speaking to them and then let them come to their own conclusions as if it was their idea all along. Like Hasbro who i quote has said
"We build products meant to persuade people to do what we want them to do. We call these people “users” and even if we don’t say it aloud, we secretly wish every one of them would become fiendishly addicted.”
It all starts with the planting of a seed in your mind.
2. EXAGGERATING and or Lying
If there is one thing all manipulators have in common it’s their way with words.
Manipulators not only love to lie but exaggerate too. Some people exaggerate their accomplishments in an attempt to impress and control you, while others might exaggerating their problems and hardships, in an attempt for you to be sympathetic and be able to get into your mind that way through your empathy. Many manipulators play on your emotions to get you to do what they want and lying and exaggeration are some of the tactics that are used.Please keep in mind that these people won’t hesitate to mislead, deceive, and/or lie in order to get what they want.
3. ONE-SIDED REPORTING
Some of the people around you are guilty of this one always keep in mind that there are 3 sides to every story yours, theirs, and the truth please make sure you keep those in mind when hearing a story about someone from another humans mouth, the internet, or an advertisement.
Ask your self these questions when you hear a story:
Am I getting the whole story?
Am I being presented with both sides of the story?
Is one side being made to look bad, evil, ignorant, or stupid?
What conclusions does this story want me to draw?
What isn’t clear? What aren’t they saying? What is purposely being left out?
4.OFFERING YOU THE ILLUSION OF CHOICE
A trick used by parents, teachers, bosses and salespeople everywhere, is to give you quite a few different options to choose from that all lead to the exact same results.
“Go now or later?”
“Start now or later?”
“Would you like the 6-month payment plan or pay it all right now up front?”
5. SEX
This is the biggest manipulator of them all people, advertisement companies "sex sells" Sex sells and is used by advertisers the world over to manipulate individulas into buying their products and services. Sex is also used to make music more popular let be totally honest most opf the music we listen to today is sex sex sex so clearly its selling. It can also be used as a weapon and often is. Women often flirt with men in order to manipulate them into doing what they want, or withhold sex from them if they’re not getting what they want and vice vs.
6.PROPAGANDA
'The point of public relations slogans like “support our troops” is that they don’t mean anything… That’s the whole point of good propaganda. You want to create a slogan that nobody’s going to be against, and everybody’s going to be for. Nobody knows what it means, because it doesn’t mean anything.” – Noam Chomsky
Propaganda is just as effective and powerful today, as it was in the 1920 That’s why we see advertisers, corporations, governments, Hollywood, and the media using it to brainwash and manipulate the masses into thinking, believing, or following whatever political ideology suits their purposes.
7.LEADING QUESTIONS
These questions assume the answer within the question in an effort to trap you.
They’re often asked by lawyers in the courtroom:
“Do you still have a gambling addiction?
“Do you still beat your wife?”
“Why did you lie?”
Sleazy self-help salesmen often try to manipulate the audience at seminars by asking leading questions in order to trap them into buying their products:
“Are you a talker or a doer?”
“Are you a winner or a loser?”
“Do you want to be rich or poor?”
8.OVERTLY COMPLIMENTARY
Please be careful there are people out there who can charm a banana right out of its skin and will try to influence you by showering you with compliments and praise in an attempt to flatter you and gain your trust. Everything they say is like music to your ears. Instead of telling you the truth, they just kiss your ass and tell you want you want to hear. This is a smart tactic because everyone likes to be complimented, approved of, and told nice things, and compliments are one of the quickest ways to build rapport, make new friends, and get someone to lower their defenses. They know that when they make you feel good, you’re more likely to want to repay the favor by doing something nice to make them feel good. Also, let’s face it: The more you like someone the easier it is for them to manipulate you. Compliments can be an especially effective tactic for those who are insecure and needy and have low self-esteem.
9. WITHHOLDING
Those who try to manipulate you will try to practice withholding be it with love, validation, sex, money anything under the sun really its one of manipulators favorite tact. You only get approval if you say,do, and/or agree to give them what they want.This only works if you have a habit of seeking approval and validation from others when you seek approval from others you give them power over you, and you give them the ability to manipulate your feelings and make you feel like crap at a moment’s notice whenever they feel like it. please keep in mind that what others can give you they can also take away. If they can lift you up they can also tear you down. And what if you seek approval from someone and they refuse to give it? What are you going to do then? Try harder? you shouldn't never compromise your inner self for the approval of another being remember you came in this word by YOURSELF and you WILL die alone you cant take family and friends with you so in token treasure yourself above all else you only get one life that your in charge of remember that if a oerson doesn’t accept you for who you are, or treat you the way they would like to be treated LEAVE THEM ALONE YOU DESERVE HAPPINESS NOT CRAP!
10.SILENT TREATMENT
A favorite tactic of women everywhere, the good old silent treatment.If you can’t get what you want, ignore that ass .
HOW TO COMBAT A MANIPULATIVE PERSON
1. YOU HAVE RIGHTS AS A HUMAN
Know your rights as a human , and recognize when they’re being violated. As long as you do not harm others, you have the right to stand up for yourself and defend yourself.
You have the right to be treated with respect.
You have the right to express your feelings, opinions and wants.
You have the right to set your own priorities.
You have the right to say “no” without feeling guilty.
You have the right to get what you pay for.
You have the right to have opinions different than others.
You have the right to take care of and protect yourself from being threatened physically, mentally or emotionally.
You have the right to create your own happy and healthy life.
Remember you have the power and moral authority to declare that it is you, not the manipulator, who’s in charge of your life.
2. Keep Your Distance
One way to detect a manipulator is to see if they switch different hats for different people meaning they act with different faces in front of different people and in different situations. Manipulators tend to habitually dwell in extremes, being highly polite to one individual and completely rude to another or totally helpless one moment and fiercely aggressive the next. When you observe this type of behavior from an individual on a regular basis, keep a healthy distance, and avoid engaging with the person unless you absolutely have to. It is not your job to change or save them.
I WILL SAY IT AGAIN IT IS NOT YOUR JOB TO SAVE THEM !!\
3.Put the Focus on Them by Asking Probing Questions
Usually manipulators will make demands of you to make you go out of your way to meet their needs. When you hear an unreasonable task it’s sometimes useful to put the focus back in theri court by asking a few probing questions, to see if he/she/they have enough self awareness to recognize the inequity of their scheme.
Ask these questions :
“Does this seem reasonable to you?”
“Does what you want from me sound fair?”
“Do I have a say in this?”
“Are you asking me or telling me?”
“So, what do I get out of this?”
“Are you really expecting me to (insert request here )?"
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